Sexual Restraint

Sexual Restraint
by Jennifer Good

When you've been with your partner for some time, it's likely the relationship could use a little spice introduced into the normal bedroom routine. For some daring couples, experimenting with a little light bondage may be just the right pick-me-up to re-ignite the sparks of passion. Bondage is a sexual practice involving tying up or restraining your partner. The idea of being restrained is an exciting sexual stimulant for a number of people. If this sounds like something you'd like to try, or you'd like some new creative tips, take a look at the ideas and suggestions below.

All Tied Up

Tying your partner up is a key element to bondage. This makes finding something to restrain your partner a primary focus for this type of love play. You can use something as simple as a bath robe belt or scarf to something more elaborate like a rope or belt system you can purchase at an adult store. Typically, most couples prefer something soft and easy they can hide like a scarf or something more flirty like a pair of "fun" cuffs that you can also get at any adult store. When selecting something, take into consideration your lifestyle, the time you have to devote to your sexual encounters, and both of your personalities. Keep in mind that you may not even need to physically restrain your partner. For some couples, you can achieve the same effect through suggestive wording.

Nowhere To Go

Now that you know what you'll use to restrain your partner, you need to figure out where and how you will do it. If you have a bed with posts or a headboard then you're all set. Alternatively, you could use legs of your bedside tables or, if you use something that's long enough, you can wrap it between your box spring and mattress. For couples that would rather not be "tied down" to something, just do something simple like tying their arms together. When you're ready to try something a little different, a quick perusal of items around your home should turn up something interesting.

Ready and Waiting

Your partner's all tied up and ready for your next move. Wait, what is your next move? This is where the real fun begins, because you can do anything you know your partner would be up to. You can torture them with slow and deliberate kisses all over their body or tickle their senses with a light feather or scarf. Add a blindfold into the mixture and every sense on your partner's body will be elevated. For more inspiration, take a look at these member ideas:

"I know that one fantasy my significant other loves is the idea of him being tied to a chair so that he is unable to move. Then I would do a striptease for him and begin masturbating in full view. Then I would slowly and antagonizingly begin to lightly touch him knowing full well that he wants to be untied NOW...hehehe...but not so fast! You could have lots of fun just teasing and tantalizing him without giving him what he wants...for as long as YOU'RE able to hold out."
--submitted by Freshstart

"I would get a set of handcuffs, a blindfold and a paddle. If he's blindfolded while handcuffed, you can lightly spank him with the paddle and since he can't see, it will up the thrill. What's really fun to do is to alternate massaging and paddling. For example, start with rubbing his back or his legs and then surprise him wih a spank here and there."
--submitted by k_land84

A Word of Caution

This type of love play requires both partners to be completely comfortable with the idea and with each other. If you decide to give this a try, you should set up a code word that lets the other person know you want to stop. Make it something out of the ordinary so it's clear that is what's being said.


Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Tasty Temptations

Tasty Temptations
by Jennifer Good

Get a little creative in the bedroom by adding a new dimension to your love play...food! Ever since 9 1/2 Weeks, food and seduction have gone hand in hand. Get ready to recreate a little culinary seduction of your own with these ideas from other LYC readers!

Body Paint Alternative
Pudding cups in various flavors work as a great alternative to commercial body paints; each person gets one cup of each flavor. Use the pudding to finger-paint your lover. When you're finished painting, you have to lick off your artwork. Then it's their turn to do the same...or you can try painting each other at the same time, but that gets messy. This can also be done with containers of yogurt, but pudding works best!
--submitted by Sensual Lady

Dressed In Chocolate
My wife literally lives for chocolate. Once, we were going out on a long drive in the country-side. We stopped at a deserted spot and we started having a fun conversation. A little later, I hugged her as show of affection. Now, she has a wonderful habit of planting a kiss over my collar bone and when she did that, she got a surprise! She found a Kit Kat taped to me (in the wrapper, of course.) After finding that, she couldn't resist hunting for each treasure until I was totally stripped. She discovered 20 treasures taped all over my body. Note: it takes a while to attach all the candies and then get dressed over them!
--submitted by Raj

Food Games
I took a bunch of fresh strawberries and cherries and kept the stems on them. I then got some thread and some thumb tacks. I dipped some of the strawberries in a melted chocolate bar and tied string to the stems. The other end of the string I tied to a thumb tack. I then hung them at different lengths over the bed. When my boyfriend got home, I pulled him into bed with me. We sat and talked for a while, and then moved on to "other" things. Every so often during this entire time, one of us would reach up and take a bite of one of the pieces of fruit and feed it to the other.It was a fun way to keep everything interesting!
--submitted by Marie

Whipped Cream Hide & Seek
This is a great game to play with your significant other. The “hider" is naked on the bed, couch, etc. He/she takes a can of cool whip and places a small amount anywhere on her/his body while the “seeker”, wearing a blindfold, must find it using only his/her nose and mouth. It's a great foreplay idea.
--submitted by Josh

The Human Sundae
My boyfriend and I had been speaking about doing this for a while, but I didn't know when we would do it. One day I went over to his house, and when he opened the door, all of the lights were out and there were candles lit. He took my hand and led me to the shower, where he bathed me. He dried me off and led me to the bed. He had bought white sheets for the occasion. Surrounding the bed were cut up strawberries, bananas, ice cream, hot fudge, grapes, and whipped cream. He laid me down and turned me into a human sundae! It was wonderful. Then it was my turn...of course you know what happens next. It was a night I will never forget!
--submitted by Meagan L. Matos

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Strip Games

Strip Games
by Jennifer Good

Adding some variety to your everyday sex life can often seem a little uninspired. That's all about to change! Take dressing in your birthday suit to an entirely new level of creativity with these ideas from other real couples . Try any and all of these 12 fabulous stripping games for an exciting new twist to your love play. Getting naked has never been this much fun!

Special Edition Chess
My wife and I really love this game. First, we light the candles and play quiet love music. When all of the pieces are set up we take one last look in each other’s eyes and start the game! Whenever I get one of her chess pieces, I also get to slowly take off one of her clothing items. I like to start with the socks first so that we can save the best for last! Usually the game stays pretty even so that we eventually don’t have any clothes on. One time, she jumped on me before we were even done and you can assume what happened after! Anyways, try this one out because it’s a really great game.
--submitted by Anonymous

Twister Teasers
Spend a night in and play twister, but with a twist. Whoever loses the round must take off an article of clothing. Play as many rounds as you wish, but before long, your sweetie will be all over you!
--submitted by Dacey

Pick A Number
If you like to be silly with your love, here's a fun thing to do: Walk up to them with a big smile on your face, and say, "Pick a number between one and ten." Don't explain why, just tell them to do it. When they make a guess at it, lean in close and whisper, "Nope, you lose. Take off your clothes."
--submitted by Barbara Tilton

Strip Checkers
First, both you and your mate write down a fantasy of yours on a slip of paper. Make sure that each of you is only wearing 4 items of clothing. Woman: shirt, bra, panties, and pants. Man: shirt, undershirt, boxers, and pants. Then play normal checkers. But when you jump one of your lover's pieces you take off one of their pieces of clothing until both of you are naked. Next (once you are both naked) if you jump one of your lover’s pieces you choose something to do to them or choose something for them to do to you. The game goes until one of you wins and the person that wins gets their fantasy to be a reality. This is perfect for making up or rekindling your love life.
--submitted by Anonymous

Strip Cribbage
Very simple. Play a normal game of cribbage... except, the loser of each hand has to remove a piece of clothing. Should one (or both) of you end up naked before the end of the game then the winner of the hand will make a request of the loser to do something to him/her. To make it even more interesting, the winner can tell the loser to do something to themself while he/she watches. No matter what the outcome of the game is, you both end up winners!!
--submitted by W.A.B.

Strip Darts
My husband and I had a dart board laying around the house, so one day we decided to put it up and play a bit of strip darts. We were not too sure how we were going to accomplish this, but we started with 2 decks of cards. I dealt out 10 cards each. We looked at our own cards only (so neither of us knew the others cards). The cards represented #'s on the board (A=1 J=11 Q=12 K=13). We shot the darts with hopes of hitting our #s that were on our cards and not in our partner’s cards. If we hit a number that we had a card for then we then we got to discard that card. Eventually, one of us ran out of cards. The partner who still had cards in their hand had to remove a piece of clothing. Soon enough, all the clothing was removed. My husband was so turned on (even though neither one of us was very good at darts), we both enjoyed the game very much!
--submitted by Secret One

Strip Dice Game
One of you roll the dice to start the game. On each player's turn, they guess whether their roll of the die will be higher or lower than the previous one. If they are incorrect then they must remove one item of clothing. The die is then passed to the other player.
--submitted by Randy

Strip Monopoly
The next time you play Monopoly, use these rules to make it extremely interesting! Every time a player has to pay tax, pay to get out of jail or pay a chance or community chest card, instead of using money, they put a piece of clothing in the middle. Whoever lands on free parking, gets the clothes. The winner, of course, is the one with the most clothing. Just think of the fun you can have with your partner trying to get your clothes back.
--submitted by Roberta

Strip Pop
You will need to write different clothing words on little pieces of papers (ie. shirt, pants, undies and so on). Then you will need to place each piece of paper in separate balloons. Give the balloons to your lover and tell them to pop one at a time. As they pop them, they have to read the paper and remove the clothing stated. If you should get the undies one before your pants, just lay it to the side. It will build the excitement, waiting to take the undies off. You can have some stripper music playing to give your partner a real show. Then you can switch positions. It’s always fun to watch your love strip. Have fun!!
--submitted by Brandi

Strip Scrabble
Spice up the old Scrabble game with this sexy version. Play Scrabble like normal, but with two scoring rules changes. For every 20 points you score, your opponent has to strip off one item of clothing. You play until all tiles are used, and the winner get to assign sexual/romantic favors to the losing partner.
--submitted by Anonymous

Strip Sorry
Ok, we are all familiar with the childhood game Sorry, right? The object of the game is to get your four game pieces into your colored section. In Strip Sorry, you must make sure you and your partner only have four articles of clothing on. After you do that, begin playing the game normally. The person who gets the first piece to the end gets to watch as the other player removes an article of their clothing. This process continues until some one has no clothes on, but then you can quit playing and go into the bedroom.
--submitted by Morgan

Strip Backgammon
Take time to dress up for a night of games. Include candles, soft music, your drink of choice such as wine, beer or mixed drinks, and make sure you have enough alone time. Playing is simple. The winner chooses a piece of clothing for the loser to remove. So if I am lucky, my wife is playing topless... if not, I'm in my boxers. To add some fun, if one of us rolls doubles, then he or she has a choice of something like a kiss, or back rub, or part massage. Doubles happen frequently so we get a lot of touching during the games. Also, if one partner gets gammoned, the winner gets a bigger prize. This certainly keeps us having fun, even in our 17th year together.
--submitted by Anonymous


Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/