Silence Is Golden: A Sensual Romantic Evening

Silence Is Golden: A Sensual Romantic Evening

If you are interested in exploring the sensual side of life this weekend, or maybe even planning a surprise romantic evening for your love, this idea might appeal to you. As you know, communication plays a vital role in any relationship. There is, however, more than one way to communicate. A lot of times, expressing your feelings and emotions without words can create a much bigger effect on your love than simply telling them how you feel. The evening detailed below is designed to enhance your communication with your partner through the use of sight, smell, taste and touch. If done correctly it will leave your lover in absolutely no doubt about how much you love them, and will create memories that can last a lifetime.


* A secluded area of the room, preferably a corner

* An air mattress or something soft and comfortable to lay on
- A collection of soft comforters or blankets would work well
- Satin or silk sheets if possible

* A collection of soft pillows

* Decorations in the form of plants, flowers and rose petals

* Soft romantic lighting

* A large fruit, cheese and/or deli style meat platter
- Could be catered from a local cafe

* Chocolate and other romantic finger foods

* Soft romantic background music, such as sitar music

* Sensual props that invoke different feelings, such as feathers, a sponge with a bowl of warm water, some soft material, chocolate syrup etc.

* If this is something you are doing to your partner, you may want to include a blind fold

* Whatever else you might want to include

The idea here is to communicate as much love and romance to your partner without either of you saying anything. Start off by sensually exploring different areas of your partner's body through the use of your fingertips, lips and the sense of smell. Try to stay away from the erogenous zones to start with. You want to take things slowly and thoroughly enjoy each moment. Pamper your love by feeding them different foods while looking deeply into their eyes. Basically, you want to do as much as you can to make your partner feel incredibly special by exploring all the different avenues of communication while saying as little as possible. After doing this you will soon discover that silence actually is golden!


Planning An All Nighter

Planning An All Nighter
How fantastic would it be to take an already exquisite experience and then double, triple or even quadruple (and more!) it? Engaging in an all nighter at least once every few months is a great way to infuse some of the early passion you may have lost or put aside because of life stresses. If you're a new couple, it can be a fantastic way to learn more about each other's sexual preferences. The number of ways to go about your all nighter are as varied as each couple. Some couple's prefer to prolong their passion until the very end of their experience, while others treat it more as a marathon of sensual experiences. Either way you choose, here are few tips you'll want to keep in mind.

1. Make sure you both have the next day free. You'll need it for catching up on your sleep!

2. Have an idea of what you want to do the entire night so boredom doesn't become an issue, but don't worry if things don't go as planned. Spontaneity always creates a better mood setter.

3. Take it slowly. You have all night. Lavish and revel your partner.

4. Make sure you have something handy to eat and drink. You don't want your partner to be distracted by the thoughts of being hungry for something other than you! Use a bit of creativity and choose food that can be incorporated into your sensual play.

If you're not sure how to plan an all nighter, use the following sample as a guide. Remember to keep in mind your partner's preferences when setting the stage for your night. Times where you would make love have been left out to allow for the mood of each moment to shine through. Your actual lovemaking can take place at numerous intervals during the plan, or the plan can be designed to lead up to a climax of lovemaking at the end.

Approx. Time

Sensual Activity
30 mins.

Start your night off with a luxurious bubble bath or a steamy hot shower. Take your time enjoying being next to each other in such an intimate space.
45 mins.

After you've dried each other off, exchange sensual massages to continue setting the mood for your evening. Light a few candles, and play some of your favorite mood music.
45 mins.

Now is an excellent time to find something to nibble on (this may or may not include your partner!) for a while.
1 to 2 hours

Pull out your favorite romantic board game, or play a few of your own games such as: truth or dare or strip poker.
1 hour

After your sensual play, put on a favorite CD and share your favorite sensual memories with your partner. Talk about what you like, or what you like to try.
1 1/2 to 3 hours Now it's time to keep up the momentum with one of your favorite sensual movies like Henry and June or 9 1/2 Weeks.
1 to 2 hours When your all night is coming to a close finish it off by cooking breakfast for your partner. Then give them a final reminder of a night they'll never forget--you!
Total Time: 6 1/2 to 10 hours!


Love In The Rain

Love In The Rain
Create a memorable encounter of misty rain and love!

Three of the top ten sexual fantasies in our Top 10 Sexual Fantasies poll included water. Create your own sensual fantasy with this Love In The Rain encounter! Just gather your ingredients, turn on your shower and follow the easy steps located below.

+ plants, tropical if possible
+ fresh towels
+ rain/ocean CD
+ candlelight
+ woodsy smelling incense
+ soap(s)
+ loofahs, back brush, etc.
+ sheets or spare towels
+ robe(s)
+ waterproof toys, if desired
+ basket

1. Give your partner this printable invitation.

2. Drape spare towels or sheets to cover entire floor and toilet area.

3. Put plants in as many places possible such as sink, hanging locations, and floor.

4. Position your candles, incense and fresh towels.

5. Place soap, loofah, back brush, toys and other items in basket. Place basket within easy reach of shower.

6. Bring in a portable radio, and get music ready to play.

7. Get dressed in robe and nothing else. :)

8. A few minutes before your partner is expected to arrive, light your candles and incense and turn on music and shower.

9. When your partner arrives, undress them and lead them into your tropical rain seduction.


Exploration Of Touch

Exploration Of Touch

The feel of someone's touch is an amazing sensation. Take advantage of this and do this intimate encounter for your love!

Have your partner lay down on something comfortable. It is recommended that your partner keep their eyes closed or have a blindfold on. Then do the following steps, in order. Each step should take anywhere from 3 to 10 minutes.

1. Lightly blow on various parts of your partner's body.

2. Take one finger and gingerly trace your partner's body.

3. With your fingertips lightly explore your partner's body.

4. Using something silky, like a silk scarf or feather, trace your partner's body.

5. Using something slightly damp, like a washcloth or piece of fruit lightly caress your partner's body.

6. With your tongue or your lips give your partner's body kisses.

7. With both hands, gently caress your partner's body.

If you wish to continue with your exploration of touch encounter, repeat the steps above, but pay more attention to your partner's sensitive areas. You may want to include more steps as well. Just remember to take your time and pay attention to how your partner reacts to certain things that you do. Make sure you have at least an hour or two of uninterrupted time.


Body Painting

Body Painting
An incredibly sensual experience for the both of you


If you are looking to try something new and exciting with your love, why not consider body painting? Body painting is where you and your partner are naked, and you create a masterpiece on their body using various items as paint. How sensual can this get? Body painting involves a lot of sensual touch on your partner's body. How erotic you want that touch to be is entirely up to you. By incorporating different scenarios into the body painting session, you can control the erotic sensations that course through their body. It can definitely be incredibly exciting!

Before You Begin:
1. Make sure you know of any allergies that your partner has, and obviously stay clear of using those products.

2. Ensure that you are able to be completely alone, with no interruptions.

3. Body painting can be messy, so make sure you are not on the good sheets!

One idea is to get a blow up air mattress and 3-4 old or inexpensive white sheets to lie on. That way you have a large area to work on.

The Paint:
When selecting your "paints" try to use things that have different textures and smells, as well as different colors. If you are using food items as paints, make sure you use items that you would not mind eating off your partner as the night progresses. It would also be a good idea to make sure you don't use any items that might irritate your partner's sense of smell. Here are some ideas.

* Strawberries
* Raspberries
* Blueberries
* Chocolate
* White chocolate
* Jellies
* Syrups of different colors
* Chocolate body paint
* Body watercolor kits

This is an area where you can be very creative so let it show!

The Paint Brushes:
Choosing what to paint with is probably more important than choosing the paint itself. This is an area where you can truly heighten your partner's sensual enjoyment because of the variety of textures that promote different bodily sensations when applying the paint. Here are some ideas for different paint applicators.

A word of caution: Please ensure that the material you use to apply the paint is either new or clean.

* Paint brushes
* Sponge brushes
* Sponges of different texture, size and shape
* Feathers
* The tip of a rosebud
* Your fingers

Again, be creative. Another way to heighten your partner's sensual enjoyment is to blindfold them. That way, their sense of touch is heightened dramatically, along with their imagination. Portray yourself as a great artist who refuses to show his masterpiece until it is complete. This type of role-playing can add a significant dimension to the experience for both yourself and your partner.

The Painting:
Perhaps the least important consideration in all of this is what to paint. It really is up to you. The important thing is to paint something that teases your partner with varied brush strokes around various parts of the body. Be sure not to attack the erogenous zones straight away. Let your partner's anticipation build as you skirt over their sensual parts.

More Creative Ideas:
Sesame Street brand bath products (you know the kind you buy your kids) make a great finger paint bath soap set; I bought a set for my nephew and found a better use for them. Run a bubble bath and paint each other using these soaps, it's a lot of fun, and pretty cheap. -Becky

Buy some glow in the dark paint, usually available in toy stores, and just before bed one night, write a love message on your belly - or perhaps on a cardboard sheet somewhere in the room like on the roof - and wait for his laughs once the lights are turned out! -Anonymous

I just love this idea I think you will too. Buy some finger paint soap. You might want to look in the toy section of the store for it. You and your mate will have a lot of fun in a candlelight bath painting each other. -Danielle

The Small Expense of Romance

The Small Expense of Romance
Submitted by Michelle


Ladies, you may think that it's the man's job to seduce you. Or, maybe after you've gotten married and had kids you've found that the old spark is gone. It's not. It may have simmered down, but its no longer the fire you once had. If you want to be romanced and get that fire roaring again, you have to seduce and romance him like when you were newlyweds. Here's what I did.

My husband had a really bad week, so I decided to cheer him up. We don't have a lot of money with him being in the military and me being a stay-at-home mom. Well ladies, I decided to get creative. I went to Wal-Mart and got a single red rose ($1.25), a box of fake rose petals($5), a red lace camisole with matching panties ($12), a bag of 100 tea lights ($2), some lavender scented massage oil ($5), and a new white terry cloth robe ($35). The total was only $60 and some change, and BOY was it worth it!

After taking my son to his grandparent's house for the night, I went up to my husband's Army unit, got in the car and draped the robe over the driver's seat. I put the rose and a note saying, "Put this on as soon as you come home and meet me upstairs" under his windshield wiper. Then I went home and sprinkled the petals up the stairs and up to the bathroom door where I had placed a on the door telling him to enter. I had romantic music playing and a bubble bath already drawn that was surrounded by tea lights. I was in my new "outfit" waiting for him. After I finished bathing him, we went into the bedroom where I had placed the rest of the petals and the tea lights around the bed, with the massage oil sitting on the night stand. I took off his robe (guys love it when you slowly strip THEM), laid him down on the bed, and proceeded to give him a sensual massage.

He loved it so much that he took me out to a very nice restaurant and dancing, even though he hates to dance! When we got home he gave me one of the best nights of lovemaking that we've ever had! He still talks about it today! The best part is that now we both try to do little things for each other whenever we can. We've actually set up a new section of our household budget that is solely for this purpose and labeled it "romance."

P.S. Your "thank you" may differ slightly, but one thing is for sure -- they'll never forget it, and neither will you!

Steamy Lunch Dates

Steamy Lunch Dates
by Brettani Shannon


Nothing heats things up a relationship more than a sexy surprise. However, busy schedules and family time can often get in the way of passion. When you've found that your sex life has taken a back seat to your everyday life, spice things up with a lunchtime rendezvous. Here are some great ideas on how to do lunch with your lover.

* Leave an invitation for lunch on their pillow, on the refrigerator, or on their windshield. Somewhere they're sure to find it. You could also text them or email them at work.

* Send a sexy note or gift to your love at their work (make sure to add “for your eyes only” on the note card to avoid any embarrassing unwrapping).

* Pack a picnic and take them to a secluded place for some food and maybe something more.

* Serve aphrodisiac dishes like asparagus, a salad with arugula, almonds, or avocado and ginger or honey dressing (all foods associated with sexual energy). Other dishes might include pesto pasta (almost all of the ingredients are aphrodisiac foods), oysters, or anything with figs, pineapple, strawberries or raspberries. Wine, truffles, and chocolate are also known aphrodisiacs.

* Show up for lunch wearing a “sexed up” version of your everyday clothes. For her: Wear short or pencil skirts, hair down, partly unbuttoned dress shirts, low back tops, garters, stiletto heels, anything that shows a little skin, something you know they love to see you in. For him: wear cologne, tight undershirt, a quality dress shirt unbuttoned a little, your “nice booty” jeans, or even her favorite suit and accessories.

* Don’t give it up. Let the lunch date be foreplay. Close your lunch with a promise for dessert that night.

* Show up at their office and make yourself available for a little “broom closet” action.

* For a seriously steamy luncheon, do a little role playing. Be your lover’s business partner, “escort,” or blind date.

However you plan your lunch date, remember that the point is to let your lover know how much you care and to keep them thinking about you for the rest of the day!

Role-playing: Lingerie Fashion Show

Role-playing: Lingerie Fashion Show
by Jennifer Good


Baring it all may be sexy, but nothing's quite as erotic as giving a glimpse of something more promising. This month's role-play takes advantage of your man's natural instinct to "see more" by giving him a fun, sexy fashion show of his favorite attire - lingerie.

What You'll Need:

For this role-play, you only need a few things: a collection of your favorite lingerie, some candles, and mood music. If your lingerie collection currently lacking, take this idea a step further by sneaking him into the dressing room of your favorite store while you try on a new wardrobe.

Setting the Mood:

Leave one of your own favorite undergarments attached with a note somewhere he'll find it. On the note, leave a message that invites him to an all-access backstage pass to this year's ultimate designer lingerie showcase. Give him the details of where and when he should meet you.

Prior to the night leave notes with little teasers such as:

- "I have something black and silky I know you'll like."
- "Did you know I look delicious in red?"
- "I can't wait for you to unwrap my newest present."

Additional Ideas:

* Let him take pictures of you while you strut your stuff. Keep your favorites and make him a framed keepsake or an erotic calendar.
* Use props to add dimension to your role-play. Great items you probably already have include gloves, scarfs, heels and jewelry.
* Make sure to do your hair and makeup in a flirty, sexy style.
* Be comfortable in the outfits you pick out. If you're not comfortable with lingerie, piece together some sexy outfits instead. Get creative with short skirts, sleepwear, swimwear and even workout clothes. Even your normal undergarments with large jewelry, great hair, makeup and heels will have a huge impact on your partner.

14 Days of Sex Positions

14 Days of Sex Positions
by Brettani Shannon

Rock his world for Valentines Day this year. Begin your celebration February 1st and have your way with him every day for 14 days. Each day, you will find a new sex position and sexy variations to play around with. This is sure to be a Valentine’s Day celebration he will never forget!

Day 1 - Connecting Emotionally
Get into missionary position with the your legs wrapped high around his back. Your man leans over to one side with his elbow supporting him, the other is free to hold you or caress you. Your body leans slightly with his. One of your shoulders comes up and the same hip follows his to the side. That position, halfway between being on your back and being on your side, facilitates very intimate lovemaking.

Day 2 - Animal Love
Experiment with versions of the classic doggie style by repositioning the angles of your hips and torso. Try rocking your hips up or down, spreading your legs wide or bringing them in between his and closing your thighs tight. You can bring your hips forward into more of a push-up position or push back into him. He could stay upright or sit down on his feet, bringing you with him.

Next, experiment with letting your chest fall to the bed or coming upright to stand up on your knees. From there, reach back and around his neck or grab onto his thighs, even lean forward and support yourself on the wall.

For the last (but certainly not least) animal love position, slide to the edge of the bed and have your guy stand on the floor behind you. Slide your knees in or out to level your hips with his.

Day 3 - Flat Out
Lie down flat on your tummy and have him lie on top of you. There isn’t much you can do in this position other than rocking your hips one way or the other; it is all up to him. You may be wondering where the fun is in that, but let me tell you, your lack of control is part of the thrill. You’ve got to just let your partner work his magic. It’s the perfect position for him to caress your legs, cheeks, back, neck, and arms. He can kiss and nibble on your neck to his hearts content.

Day 4 - Bedroom Acrobatics
Today is the day to get crazy. This is the position that makes the Love Swing worth buying, but hey, if you’ve got a regular swing and can use it without being reported for public indecency, then go ahead and use it! Without the support, things can get a little tricky, but there are definitely some fun options for you.

Envision yourself as a wheelbarrow. You are face down with your hands on the floor and your lover is standing behind you. In the swing, it’s effortless to strap yourself in and fall forward to let your legs fly up behind you. He can hold your legs out to the side from underneath or let the leg straps do the work and grab onto your hips. You can wrap your legs around his back as well.

If you are trying this without the support of a swing, it may be easier for your man to be on his knees and you on your forearms, but even then, it could be quite a challenge. To achieve a similar effect, stack pillows or use a Liberator Wedge placed at the edge of a bed to support your body into a position much like the Downward Facing Dog yoga pose, with your chest resting on the bed instead of your hands on the floor, making it much less awkward for your man to hold up your bottom half.

Day 5 - Quite Clitoral
Today is the day to play around on top. While you are on top, see how it feels to move your hips in different ways. Slide forward and back (back to center or beyond, as long as it is comfortable for you both) without lifting yourself off of his body at all. Try this sitting up with your torso at varying degrees and feel the difference. You can also lay down fully onto your partner’s chest and rock your hips forward and back (which makes an up and down motion on him).

Experiment with the placement of your legs as well. See how it feels to have them alongside your lover’s hips. Then, tuck your toes under his thighs and have him close his legs all the way. Try tucking your toes under your bum, on top of his thighs.

Another position is to bring your legs forward instead of folded underneath you. Your lover can try a few tricks of his own with you on top. He can raise his torso up slightly or all the way, he can open or close his legs, and he can squeeze his bum and press into you. If he sits up all the way, try wrapping your legs around his back for a whole new experience. Hold him close or lean back with the support of his arms.

If you are still looking for more, flip around into a reverse cowgirl position. You are still sitting on top, but you are facing his feet instead! In this position, you can lean back to let him wrap his arms around your body. This way, he can explore you with his hands, but he can't see what he's touching!

Day 6 - Standing Ovation
There are so many creative ways to make love standing up, but depending on his size and how your bodies fit together, some are better than others. Your man can come from behind while you lean forward to brace yourself against a wall (most anyone can achieve this one) or he can use his body to press you flat against the wall (takes a little more finesse), or you could bend all the way over so you are supporting yourself with your hands on the floor (this one could hurt if he’s really very well-endowed).

You can also turn face to face (aligning your bodies with a stool if necessary) and hold each other close (only for the well-endowed). Part your legs far enough for penetration and then close them again for maximum clitoral stimulation. Stay close or hold onto each other for balance and lean your torsos away from each other. The range of movement is limited, but smaller tantric movements like this one can be incredibly intimate.

Day 7 - Bend Over Backwards
You kneel, then sit on your feet and lie back onto the floor, allowing your thighs to spread. He climbs on top of you, holding your arms high above your head. Depending on how your bodies align, he’s got the option of being between your things, over you like a push-up position, or straddling you. He can kiss and nibble on your shoulders, chest and arms in this position with ease. While this position might take some effort to stay in, it is more than worth the work. Your breasts are taut, your clitoris is exposed, and you are really quite at his mercy, making it extra hot!

Day 8 - Tender Times
Make love in the spooning position for a passionate and intimate connection. You each have a free arm to caress each other with. Reach up and around his neck for a super sexy kiss. You can easily maneuver into variations of this position by wrapping your top leg over and around his or rolling slightly onto your tummy and your man reaching over you to support himself with his hand on the bed near your shoulder.

Day 9 - Anywhere, Anytime
Hop up on a kitchen counter, on the washing machine, his/your desk at the office, or even the hood of your car. Call your man over, wrap your legs around him, and go to town. If he’s strong enough to do it without being awkward, he can lift you from your seated position and hold you up against a wall for a little variation.

Day 10 - The Quest of the O
For optimal G-Spot stimulation, try this on for size. Get your guy to stand next to the bed. You lie on your back with your bum at the very edge. Use a Liberator wedge or a stack of pillows underneath you to prop your hips up. Doing so will your hips to meet without him having to crouch, but more importantly, it tilts your pelvis into a position that is perfect for G-spot stimulation. You can wrap your legs around him, rest them on his shoulders or chest, or he can hold them up for you. He can grip your hips and bring you to him or use his hands to caress and play with your body.

Day 11 - Trading Places
It’s time to try a reverse missionary position. Your man lies on his back with his legs parted. You lie on top of him in between his legs. Open your thighs enough to allow penetration, and then close them again to grip him tightly. Pump just like he would in a traditional missionary position. You won’t believe the increased stimulation you will feel, not to mention the excitement of trading places!

Day 12 - Have a Seat
Get into traditional doggie style position, but then have your man sit up and back on his knees. Let your hips come back with him. Then, find which torso position you like best. Keep your chest down on the bed, push up to your hands, or sit all the way up with your back against his chest. In that last position, you can kiss each other and caress each other, making it one of those silver screen sex positions you always wanted to experience.

Day 13 - Classic and Fantastic
The missionary position is always nice, but today, you’ll be mixing things up a bit. First, try letting your legs rest flat in a spread eagle position on the bed. Then, bring your knees up, feet flat on the bed. You can thrust your hips up off of the bed to meet him. Next, lower your hips back down to the bed and wrap your legs around him. Experiment with sliding your feet up and down the inside of his legs for a little different stimulation.

Next, try raising your legs up off the bed into a variety of positions. Wrap them around his waist, locking your ankles to allow you a point of leverage to join in his movement. Extend your legs straight out to the side. Try resting one or both of your legs on his shoulders. He can stay lying on top of you, come slightly up to support himself with his arm on the bed or wall behind you.

He could sit back on his knees, holding you up by gripping your thighs against his chest. From there, you can let your legs bend and slide down to his side or bring your knees together with your feet flat on his chest. Experiment here with where your hips are. Feel the difference when you lift them up and slide a pillow underneath you as opposed to resting your back flat on the bed. Have your guy lean forward and push your knees into your chest for a whole new experience! Each variation of the missionary position offers a great new sensation for the both of you.

Day 14 - Blow His Mind
Surprise your lover with today’s position that is just for him. Sit him in a chair, on the couch, or on a seat in the shower and tell him to lean back and enjoy. Start him off with a little oral action, but stop before he gets too excited, take a break. Slide your body up to where you are chest to chest. Kiss him all over, teasing him as you go and then slide your bare skin back down to finish him off. If you just can’t help it, go ahead and climb onto his lap, facing front or back, doing all the work for him.

Top Ten Sexy Gifts

Top Ten Sexy Gifts
by Brettani Shannon

# Sexy Photos
Take photos of yourself in sexy outfits or wearing nothing at all. Take close-ups and distance shots, use revealing and suggestive poses, or take pictures in various locations (in the kitchen, on his car, at the office, in bed). You can use digital software, stickers, or metallic pens to add notes or drawings to your photos. Put the pictures in a little book, email them to your love, or fill up the first part of a photo album with them with a note saying, “there’s more to come.”

# Love Coupons
Use cut out hearts, card stock, or a stack of post-its to make your lover steamy love coupons. They can vary from specific details like “kisses wherever you want for one minute,” or “sex in a ‘certain position’,” to more general coupons like “morning lovin’,” or “a drive to lover’s lane.” You can also decide when your coupons are redeemable: anytime, today only, or as often as you like forever.

# Lingerie
Sweet, naughty, elegant, or outrageous, there is something for everyone. Buying lingerie for someone else can be tricky. Do some research if you need to (see what she already has, sizes, styles, colors, and brands) or go to a lingerie shop and ask for assistance in finding something that you can’t go wrong with.

# Share Your Fantasies
Over drinks at a bar, on the couch with hot cocoa, in bed, in a note, in an email, or any other creative way, sharing your sensual fantasies with your partner is a great gift, and its absolutely free. The result of opening up to your lover is greater intimacy in the bedroom and out.

# Sweet And Sexy Gift Baskets
Include anything you want to make yourself into a decedent dessert. Items like whipped cream, chocolate, strawberry, and butterscotch syrups, and cherries are staples. Get creative with the presentation of this gift by dressing up in only an apron, a baker’s jacket and hat, or anything else that will make him think of sweet treats.

# A Striptease For Your Lover
For man or woman, a private striptease is a gift your lover will never forget.

# Sensual Poetry
Download or write your own erotic poetry. Let your imagination and desires take you to places you’ve never been. Erotic poetry doesn’t have to be graphic. You can use metaphors and imaginative expressions to convey your sentiment. (Hint: if you are not sure how to get started, take a look at LYC's sensual poems.)

# Personalized Erotic Stories
Write a sexy story starring you and your lover (you can also purchase personalized romance novels online). It can be a fictional story about one of your fantasies, or a retelling of hot moment between the two of you.

# A CD Of Lovemaking Music
Burn a CD of music that makes you feel sexy. Keep in mind the flow of things while choosing the order of songs. Listen to them and imagine what you want to do with your partner during that song. Then, get creative when you play the CD. Dance, bathe, massage, kiss, and make love to the music.

# Love Games
While you can buy games, making your own is half the fun. Personalized sexual trivia (my favorite place to be kissed is___. Where did we make love for the first time? etc.) is a fun way to reminisce and get in the mood. Make up your own erotic spinner or dice using things you know the other person loves. Set up a sexy scavenger hunt with clues, sexy little gifts (toys and pictures) and a grand prize (you!).

Sexy Surprises For Your Lover


Jennifer Good

1. Welcome your lover in the nude or completely decked out in lingerie!

2. Visit them wearing only a trench coat.

3. Take after the movie, Varsity Blues, and wear a whipped cream bikini (this works both ways!!).

4. On your next "road trip" surprise your love with an unexpected sensual pleasuring.

5. Volunteer to be a human sundae.

6. Unexpectedly turn off all the lights, light a few candles then slowly begin to undress your partner and pleasure only them.

7. Surprise your love with a fun, sensual strip dance.

8. Tell your partner you've planned a great date night for them and instead spend the night playing sensually related games like Strip Poker or one of the games listed here!

9. Pretend to be going somewhere and instead pull over to a secluded spot somewhere and make love in the car.

10. Wake your love up in the morning with a surprise sensual pleasuring.

Striptease 101

by Brettani Shannon

Striptease 101Give your man a special treat he'll never forget - a surprise striptease! It's the perfect unexpected treat, and is something he's sure to remember better than any box of candy or stuffed animal. And don't worry...any woman can give a great striptease, even if your body isn't "perfect" or you're naturally shy. The following tips will help make certain that your sexy surprise will be an enormous success!

First let's address what to wear...

* Choose clothing that accentuates your most beautiful body parts. This is one time that it’s appropriate to show a lot of skin. Anything from elegant gowns, baby-dolls, sexy lingerie, cute two-piece sets, or little dresses are great to wear.

* Whatever you wear, make sure it can be removed easily. Don’t wear a corset that you have to unbutton, or a tight dress that’s difficult to slip out off. Avoid anything too complicated that you will have to fidget with to get off. Clothing that zips in back or fitted clothing that doesn’t stretch can also be difficult to remove.

* Make sure that your panties frame your cheeks and show off your shape. We all wear those comfy panties that no one else should see, but for the purpose of seducing your man, the guidelines are: the top of the back of your panties should reach no more than two inches above your cheeks. Any higher than that and they give the illusion that your caboose is a lot longer than it is. Try on booty shorts, full bottomed panties, thongs, and g-strings to see which you feel best in. Also, if they leave lines on your body after you take them off, they are too tight.

* The choice to wear shoes or not is a personal preference, as both looks are sexy. If you do choose to wear shoes, choose them wisely. Stilettos are the perfect choice if you can handle them, as the high heel makes your legs look much longer. If moving gracefully in stilettos is too daunting, dancing with bare feet can also be very seductive. You should stay away from short, one-inch heels. They look great with pants and skirts, but give the illusion of shortening naked legs. Shoes that are too high will also inhibit your movement and may make you fall, so choose shoes that you feel confident wearing. Strapless shoes can be removed gracefully, but if yours need to be buckled, you'll probably want to remove your clothing without taking off your shoes. Almost anything stretchy can be taken off over your shoes, but it would be a good idea to practice first.

* Stockings are a sexy addition to almost any outfit. They can be knee high or thigh high, worn with or without garters. Whichever you choose, make sure to get a large enough size. It can help to get a size too large so that they don't constrict your legs and cause unsightly bulges while you're moving. A tip: it can be really sexy to leave your stockings and garter belt on for a while after your dance. If you'd like to do this, wear a thong or g-string on the outside so that they can be removed without having to unhook your garters.

The seductive addition of props...

* Use a rose or a large feather to entice and tease him. During your dance, take the feather and gently tickle him from his cheek and neck down his shoulder to his fingertips without letting him touch you back. Sit on a chair and while holding your frame tall, slide your feet apart enough to tease him, and gently dust yourself from neck to thigh with the feather.

* Even though the goal is to take off your clothes, covering up is still very sexy. Use a nice shawl, wrap, or piece of sheer fabric, to tease him. Wrap it around yourself while giving him peeks. Use it during your dance or when you get up close and personal. This can also double as a great cover up if you feel more comfortable being a little less exposed.

* If you want to try using a retractable pole, you can also purchase a how-to video for tricks, but the best part of using a pole is that it is a fun addition to your ambiance.

* Whipped cream, chocolate sauce, or any other "dessert on you" accessories are great if you want to let him be more than a spectator. Use these sweets as a segue into the interactive portion of your show.

Setting the stage for ambiance...

* After you choose the songs you want, make a mix CD or playlist and pay attention to the order of the songs so that you can choreograph your routine and not have to change songs in the middle.

* Use low, indirect lighting because it is both flattering (making you more comfortable) and more intimate. Achieve the perfect lighting by mixing candles with lamps and colored bulbs.

* If your room is lacking intimacy, dress it up by draping deep colored valances or adding velvet or satin throws and pillows to your furniture.

Get comfortable with these dancing tips...

* Practice in the mirror, or better yet, videotape yourself dancing so that you can look at yourself and see which moves you like.

* Use low, indirect lighting because it is both flattering (making you more comfortable) and more intimate. Achieve the perfect lighting by mixing candles with lamps and colored bulbs.

* Dance on your feet and on the floor. On the floor, try opening and closing your legs or leaning your knees from one side to the other. Experiment with different angles. Try caressing yourself when you don't know what else to do.

* Move in time to the music. Turn around and walk seductively.

* Some moves always look good. One is lying on your back with your knees bent, another is arching your back and the last is bending over from the waist, a little or a lot, with your backside towards your partner. You can also try this from the side angle or while leaning on a chair or against a wall.

* In any standing poses, give yourself a little spank and wink at your guy. It's naughty, but cute.

* Try sliding down a wall and then back up. Slide your hands along the wall beside you or let them go to your thighs, both very sexy.

* Use your hair. Men love women's hair. While standing up, kneeling, or sitting, stretch your torso while you pull your hair up and let it fall again. If you have really long hair, arch your back while standing and tilt your head back letting your hair swish your backside.

* Skim your fingertips over any part of you and he'll be begging for more. Try caressing your breasts the way you like him to do. It will blow his mind.

* Smile at him; use your lips and your eyes to seduce him. Blow kisses, wink, and give him those bedroom eyes. Don't be afraid to laugh, talk, or even growl if you feel like it. Even if you don't feel confident, the more confidence you can portray the more erotic it will feel for him.

* Point your toes whenever your foot is not on the floor. It is more feminine and graceful than a flexed foot.

Extra stripping tips...

* Removing your clothes gracefully can be a challenge. Avoid taking your top off like a man takes off his t-shirt. While it may be sexy to watch them do it, it is quite the opposite for a woman. If you chose something that needs to be removed by slipping it over your head, seductively slip it off by pulling it from the bottom on the sides while standing up tall; don't hunch over.

* When taking your bottoms off, try slipping them off over your shoes or bare feet while standing straight-legged. Do this by bending over from the waist and guiding them off all the way to the floor and then stepping out of them. If this isn't easy for you, try bending your knees or taking your bottoms off while lying on your back.

* It is not imperative to remove all of your clothing. Stripping down to a little something sexy is equally as alluring. Remember to do as much as you are comfortable with. It should be a fun and exciting experience for both of you.

Lap Dance 101...
The point is of a lap dance is to tease him, but still making it more interactive by letting him get in a little snuggling, touching, and kissing in.

* You can sit next to him and then lean over him with your chest touching his, turn toward the ceiling and caress yourself a little, or turn facedown with your shoulder and side rubbing across his tummy and chest.

* Position yourself on top of him, sitting on your knees on his thighs. This allows you to rise up and down. When rising up, let his nose graze your chest and tummy. You can give him a little squeeze with your breasts as well. When you come down, bring your legs together and slide down to the floor.

* "Dancing" close to him like this is great fully clothed, partially clothes, in the nude, or partially covered with a wrap. Move your body in time to the music. Simulate what you might do in the bedroom once in a while to really heat things up.

* Turn around and sit in his lap. Pull up your hair and let yourself lean back to where your shoulders and neck are close to his face. Get creative, caressing yourself and him.

* Stroke his hair, the back of his neck, and his chest. Kiss him and let him kiss you.

The most important thing to remember is to be yourself. Having fun being sexy for him is more arousing than any of the particular moves or tricks. Pick and choose the tips from this guide that help you to feel confident and go for it! Your Valentine striptease will be a gift he'll never forget, and one he'll hope to get every year after.