Solutions to common fantasies that won't compromise your relationship

If You Dare...
If You Dare... Solutions to common fantasies that won't compromise your relationship!
by Jennifer Good

Sexual exploration is a healthy and loving way to gain a deeper connection with your partner. Sometimes though, the explorations we may desire to try can end up creating more harm than good. With this in mind, you'll find listed below ideas to act out five of the top ten sensual fantasies, as rated by Lovingyou.com users, in ways that will not compromise you or your partner. Whenever you are acting out a sexual encounter, remember to talk about your needs and desires first. Make sure you both are aware of your limitations and your comfort zones.

The Threesome
Personally, I don't encourage couples to have a third-party enter into the scenario. For some couples it can work perfectly fine, although for most the experience can result in harboring jealousy and resentment. If a ménage à trois is high on yours or your partner's list of fantasies instead try something that can recreate the senses of actually having one. For instance, you may try:

* calling a couple's phone sex line
* taking advantage of the use of sexual toys to achieve multiple feelings
* mocking an encounter with a third person by blindfolding your partner and pretending to be two people

Sex On The Beach
More than a name for a great drink, sex on the beach can be a beautifully erotic experience. If you are not fortunate enough to live close to a beach, or fear public exposure, you can easily recreate this experience with a little imagination. Suitable alternatives include making use of a pool, hot tub or bubble bath. If outdoors, make sure it is a night of a full moon. If indoors, play a CD of ocean sounds and light a few candles to help set the mood.

Sex In A Public Place
The ideas for public sexual encounters are endless. A few of the classic ideas include making love at the drive-in, having sex at a hotel with the windows open, on a rooftop, on a patio or balcony and in the woods. For more ideas view these links: Places To Make Love and More Places To Make Love

Role Playing An Encounter
Role-playing is a very creative outlet, and can steam up any night of passion. A few role-playing scenarios you and your partner might enjoy include police officer and suspect, teacher and student, nurse and patient, construction worker and house wife, or employer and employee. To add authenticity, dress up in your role and truly act in character. Do agree to have a code word to stop, for the unlikely case that things get too uncomfortable.

Domination
There are many varying degrees of domination. Most couples admit that a slight degree of domination by their partner is an exciting turn on. A light game of domination could consist of simple requests such as kiss me here, or wash me there, feed me those strawberries, etc. If this is something you'd both like to try you'll need to set verbal guidelines of what would be considered going to far for each partner. Again, agree on a code word that indicates for the other person to stop.

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Live Out A Secret Fantasy

Live Out A Secret Fantasy
Break through your intimidation barrier with these 35 fantasies!

If you've been longing to add something a little extra to your sexual life, now may be just the time to experiment! We asked Lovingyou.com users to share their ultimate fantasy! Below you'll find their top 10 fantasies, as well as a few of our favorites for you to try...if you dare!

Click here for the top 10 fantasies!

1. "I would like to kiss him with champagne and roses all over." -Mehar

2. "I would like making love to her in a swimming pool." -Vicks

3. "I would like to one day to go to the park, and have sex in the woods." -Bobby

4. "I would like to make love to my partner in front of all of our friends. I think it would be so thrilling to have an audience!" -VAB

5. "I would to be in bed, and she would approach me (in her sexy lingerie), and we would tease each other. Then, slowly start making out, and we would touch each other. Actually, this has happened once before. But repetition isn't illegal, right?" -Neo

6. "I would like being tied up and blindfolded." -Cat

7. "I would enjoy a threesome with another woman." -Snowflake

# "It's kind of simple, but I'd just love to have sex on a beautiful beach with my love." -Emma

# "My ultimate fantasy would be for my man to take me to an island like Hawaii, and go on a walk to see exotic plants and animals. Then, after the long, sweaty walk we would come up to a waterfall and cave. He would take me behind the waterfall and make love right there. That sounds perfect." -Butta

# "I would like it if I am a Dominatrix and he is my lowly submissive sex slave. We do this on a smaller scale already, but I would like to play it up a bit more." -Tori

# "I would like being tied up while he has his way with me." -Kelly

# "I would like having sex outside under the stars on the Fourth of July." -Anonymous

# "My boyfriend and I once talked about making love on a crowded bus. I guess a Greyhound bus, something with big comfy seats and high chair backs so we can be little more discreet than say on a school bus. We imagined that we had a burning desire for each other, but that we had never acted on it. For some reason I'm upset with him. I am sitting next to the window looking out and completely ignoring him. In fact he is sitting so far away from me that you could fit another person between us. He then slides over close to me, and we kiss ever so slowly. I then take my sweater off, and place it over our laps concealing our hands, which we use to explore and tease each other. We finish off the bus ride with me sitting on his lap, facing forward with my back to him and my skirt spread out over his lap, to hide the fact that his pants are unzipped. We are truly riding the bus home." -Sea

# "I would like to just kiss her all over her body, and after all this I would make love to her for the whole night." -Mikki

# "I would love to role play a "first meeting seduction" with my significant other, where he and I go somewhere new and act as if we had just met. I would love to have him seduce me all over again as if we had never met." -Tall Lady

# "I always wanted to dance very closely, while French kissing with my partner. Just dancing while rubbing up against his muscular tense body would make me crazy! (In a good way!) -Anonymous

# "Some people may find this a bit weird, but I want to make love to my significant other in a mud puddle while it's raining. To top it off, follow it by taking a shower together to rinse all the mud off." -Sweet & Sexy

# "I would like making love outdoors in a big field in the middle of the day." -Monica

# "I would like to have hot sex outside in a thunder storm with rain pouring all around us, lightening maybe if it is a ways from us. I find that thought exciting." -Jacinda Wood

# "This may seem cliché, but I want to show up at his work, in the middle of the day, in nothing but a trench coat and sexy heels, and make love to him right then and there!" -Mel

# "Having sex in a public place where we can get easily caught, such as the bathroom, a car in a parking lot, etc." -Marky's Stiney

# "I would like to abduct her, and make her my love slave for the weekend." -Anonymous

# "Well, I would walk her out to her car when she goes to work. One day we would get into a heated kiss and my hand would roam up her skirt, but not past the panties. I'd like to give her oral sex while she's sitting in her car in her skirt." -Aaron

# "We would be standing by a fire, and he would start kissing the back of my neck. He would not stop there. All of a sudden, it would start to rain, and we go to the deck and make passionate love there." -Wendy

# "I would like being seduced, then made love to. I would enjoy being told how much he loves making love to me, slowly and sexy for hours in our hut on the beach while stranded." -Fantasylifeforme

# "I would like to watch my wife make love to another woman." -Tony

# "I would like to make love to my boyfriend in my parent's rose garden during a full moon, knowing they are inside the house, but I obviously wouldn't want them to catch me! -Tara

# "I would like making love with him in a room of about 10 couples and everybody is blindfolded." -Cindy

# "I would like making love on a blanket in the soft grass of the city park, with only the stars to watch us." -Mike's Girl

# I would like role-playing he's the cop and I'm the bad guy." -Anonymous

# "My fantasy takes place in an elevator. The elevator stops on the way up, and my partner gets on wearing a fireman's outfit. He has nothing on except for the overalls and the boots, he grabs me and we start fooling around. He eventually puts out my fire! -Anonymous

# "I would like to dress up in a skimpy maid's uniform, and have him be a rich and successful businessman who is cheating on his wife with me. He comes home after a long day at work only to catch a glimpse of a lacy bra peaking out from my uniform. He then just bends me over a table and thrusts like mad from behind me. He should be very rough with me, and act like he's just using me for his sexual pleasure. That is so hot!" -Crystal

# "I would like driving nude in the car." -Paul

# "I would love to have sex on the Eiffel Tower during the night time with all the lights shining. It's a thrill to know someone could see you. Also, Paris is the most romantic city." -Becky

# "I would like it if I'd be the nurse, and my lover would be the patient. First, I would do oral care by French kissing. Then, I'd take off his shirt and give a nice massage with warm, scented oil. Next, I would get in bed and instruct the patient to come to me, taking off his pants in the process...and so on from there!" -Nursy

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

The Oral Factor

The Oral Factor
Create an oral experience he'll never forget!!
by Jennifer Good

If your man loves to receive oral sex, and whose doesn't, these four oral encounters are sure to keep him begging for more! Before you decide to complete an encounter, spice things up by printing out the coordinating invitation (except #4) and give it to them. This will create the added factor of sweet, tempting anticipation! So, if you're ready to knock his socks off, read on!

Encounter #1: Hot & Cold
Click On: Printable Invitation
When your partner arrives, tell him to take off his clothes and lie on the bed, or wherever you choose. Then hand him a blindfold and tell him to put it on. After he has done this, let him lay there in suspense for a few minutes. When you are ready, reach over to your hidden cup of warm drink (coffee, hot chocolate, etc.) and take a sip. Then proceed to pleasure him with your mouth. When he is really into it, reach down and put an ice cube in your mouth. Then proceed to pleasure your partner again. Keep switching these until needed. :)

Encounter #2: Look But Don't Lick
Click On: Printable Invitation
When your partner arrives, tell him to take off his clothes, or help them out of them yourself. Have him lie down on the bed. Then undress yourself, if you are not already undressed, and get in the 69 position with you on top of him, but a direction so your lower body is above his head. Instruct him that no matter what you do he is not allowed to touch you, or you will completely stop what you are doing and walk away. Then proceed to pleasure him, but with the secret of making him think you are enjoying giving him the pleasure more than he could possibly be receiving it. You can do this by rotating your torso, moaning, pretending to move your body as if having sex with him, etc.

Encounter #3: The Better To Please You With My Dear
Click On: Printable Invitation
For this encounter, your creativity is the only block. Keep a basket of oral sex aides handy. You might include strong mints, coffee, ice, pop rocks, fruit, chocolate syrup, whip cream, heating or icy edible massage oil, etc. When your partner arrives for his appointment, have him undress and put on a blindfold. Then have him sit in a chair or on the side of the bed. Then one-by-one try using all of the items you've collected inside your treat basket. He'll never know what hit him!

Encounter #4: Wherever You Go, There I Am
Variety is the spice of life, especially when it comes to mind blowing sex, pun intended! Spice things up by giving him pleasure at the most unexpected times and places. Below are a few suggestions!

* While they are asleep.

* Under their desk while they are working.
Pretend to be getting something, or looking at something under their desk. On your way up stop and surprise them!

* While they are watching T.V.
Walk over to your partner, and in an extremely causal tone say, "Enjoy and your show and don't mind me." Then start undoing their pants.

* While they are on the phone.
Walk over to your partner and put your finger over your mouth, signaling them to be quiet. Then start undoing their pants...

* While they are taking shower.
This is best done if you are wearing some kind of clothing like your night gown or something you don't mind getting wet. They should get the impression that this was a spur of the moment idea, and you didn't even want to wait to take off your clothes.

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/