Inspire Sensual Play

Inspire Sensual Play
10 ideas to get things going!
by Jennifer Good!

1. Read erotic fiction or prose together.

2. Act on each other's fantasies.

3. Watch an erotic movie together.

4. Play a sensual board game.

5. Create a mock lingerie photo shoot. If you are comfortable, use a Polaroid or video camera for more realism.

6. Study up on new sexual positions you'd like to try with your partner. Get a few index cards, and write one idea on each card. Every time you want to try a new position, mail your partner the card. Or, leave it in a private place where they will find it.

7. Visit an erotic toy store, either online or nearby, and talk about different things you may want to purchase in the future and why.

8. Create a sensual kit that you both may use during any love play time. Fill it with items you would both be comfortable using, such as: tea lights, feather, massage lotion, blindfold, silk scarf, rose petals, camera, etc.

9. Create a Love Play Book Club. Go to a bookstore or library together, and each of you choose one how-to type sensual book. Set a date somewhere around the two week mark, with separate days for each other. On your day, you or your partner will provide the other with a demonstration of what they learned.

10. Experiment with food. Take a special trip to the grocery store together. Only purchase things you plan on using that night. Alternatively, you could raid your kitchen for items you would like to use.

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Water Play

Water Play
Water PlayHave fun with water.
by Bob Narindra

Water can be both a wonderful aphrodisiac and a great sensual aid due to the fact that its natural buoyancy leaves your body feeling almost weightless.

One great place to take advantage of this is in the bath, especially when the mood is set by the warm, soft glow of candlelight and the stimulating scent of your partner's favorite bath oils. Add bubbles to the bath to really make the scene a sensual wonderland.

Have your partner get into the bath first and then climb in behind them, gently wrapping your legs around their torso. While in this position, you will find you have access to almost every part of your partner's body. Using the bath oils, soap or shampoo, gently massage their head, neck shoulders and back. Then, while you are still behind them, reach round and massage their chest and lower body. Once properly stimulated, have your partner turn around and make love in a seated position.

Another great place to enjoy the qualities of water is in the shower. While showering, you can give each other a full body massage, paying particular attention to the erogenous zones. Another great idea is to use the shower as a tool for both pleasure and punishment. If your partner is good, you can reward them with warm water, and if they are bad, you can punish them with a shot of cold water. Be sure to take advantage of the different settings that your shower may have to offer. By using the jet, spray and mist settings (if available) you can simulate different rainy weather conditions and fantasize that you are in fact making love outside, or in a tropical rain forest.

When it comes to water, few things beat the skinny-dipping in the swimming pool, especially when it is heated on a starry night. Utilize the steps or a ledge in the pool to experiment with and find your most comfortable position. Another idea is for the female to brace herself against the edge of the pool while being pleasured from behind.

In the colder months, a more realistic place is a Jacuzzi or hot tub. Use the powerful hot jets of water to first relax your partner and then stimulate their sensual body parts. To enhance the mood, you can also purchase various oils and bubble bath products that are specifically designed for spa. These are available from most pool supply stores.

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Solutions to common fantasies that won't compromise your relationship

If You Dare...
If You Dare... Solutions to common fantasies that won't compromise your relationship!
by Jennifer Good

Sexual exploration is a healthy and loving way to gain a deeper connection with your partner. Sometimes though, the explorations we may desire to try can end up creating more harm than good. With this in mind, you'll find listed below ideas to act out five of the top ten sensual fantasies, as rated by Lovingyou.com users, in ways that will not compromise you or your partner. Whenever you are acting out a sexual encounter, remember to talk about your needs and desires first. Make sure you both are aware of your limitations and your comfort zones.

The Threesome
Personally, I don't encourage couples to have a third-party enter into the scenario. For some couples it can work perfectly fine, although for most the experience can result in harboring jealousy and resentment. If a ménage à trois is high on yours or your partner's list of fantasies instead try something that can recreate the senses of actually having one. For instance, you may try:

* calling a couple's phone sex line
* taking advantage of the use of sexual toys to achieve multiple feelings
* mocking an encounter with a third person by blindfolding your partner and pretending to be two people

Sex On The Beach
More than a name for a great drink, sex on the beach can be a beautifully erotic experience. If you are not fortunate enough to live close to a beach, or fear public exposure, you can easily recreate this experience with a little imagination. Suitable alternatives include making use of a pool, hot tub or bubble bath. If outdoors, make sure it is a night of a full moon. If indoors, play a CD of ocean sounds and light a few candles to help set the mood.

Sex In A Public Place
The ideas for public sexual encounters are endless. A few of the classic ideas include making love at the drive-in, having sex at a hotel with the windows open, on a rooftop, on a patio or balcony and in the woods. For more ideas view these links: Places To Make Love and More Places To Make Love

Role Playing An Encounter
Role-playing is a very creative outlet, and can steam up any night of passion. A few role-playing scenarios you and your partner might enjoy include police officer and suspect, teacher and student, nurse and patient, construction worker and house wife, or employer and employee. To add authenticity, dress up in your role and truly act in character. Do agree to have a code word to stop, for the unlikely case that things get too uncomfortable.

Domination
There are many varying degrees of domination. Most couples admit that a slight degree of domination by their partner is an exciting turn on. A light game of domination could consist of simple requests such as kiss me here, or wash me there, feed me those strawberries, etc. If this is something you'd both like to try you'll need to set verbal guidelines of what would be considered going to far for each partner. Again, agree on a code word that indicates for the other person to stop.

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Live Out A Secret Fantasy

Live Out A Secret Fantasy
Break through your intimidation barrier with these 35 fantasies!

If you've been longing to add something a little extra to your sexual life, now may be just the time to experiment! We asked Lovingyou.com users to share their ultimate fantasy! Below you'll find their top 10 fantasies, as well as a few of our favorites for you to try...if you dare!

Click here for the top 10 fantasies!

1. "I would like to kiss him with champagne and roses all over." -Mehar

2. "I would like making love to her in a swimming pool." -Vicks

3. "I would like to one day to go to the park, and have sex in the woods." -Bobby

4. "I would like to make love to my partner in front of all of our friends. I think it would be so thrilling to have an audience!" -VAB

5. "I would to be in bed, and she would approach me (in her sexy lingerie), and we would tease each other. Then, slowly start making out, and we would touch each other. Actually, this has happened once before. But repetition isn't illegal, right?" -Neo

6. "I would like being tied up and blindfolded." -Cat

7. "I would enjoy a threesome with another woman." -Snowflake

# "It's kind of simple, but I'd just love to have sex on a beautiful beach with my love." -Emma

# "My ultimate fantasy would be for my man to take me to an island like Hawaii, and go on a walk to see exotic plants and animals. Then, after the long, sweaty walk we would come up to a waterfall and cave. He would take me behind the waterfall and make love right there. That sounds perfect." -Butta

# "I would like it if I am a Dominatrix and he is my lowly submissive sex slave. We do this on a smaller scale already, but I would like to play it up a bit more." -Tori

# "I would like being tied up while he has his way with me." -Kelly

# "I would like having sex outside under the stars on the Fourth of July." -Anonymous

# "My boyfriend and I once talked about making love on a crowded bus. I guess a Greyhound bus, something with big comfy seats and high chair backs so we can be little more discreet than say on a school bus. We imagined that we had a burning desire for each other, but that we had never acted on it. For some reason I'm upset with him. I am sitting next to the window looking out and completely ignoring him. In fact he is sitting so far away from me that you could fit another person between us. He then slides over close to me, and we kiss ever so slowly. I then take my sweater off, and place it over our laps concealing our hands, which we use to explore and tease each other. We finish off the bus ride with me sitting on his lap, facing forward with my back to him and my skirt spread out over his lap, to hide the fact that his pants are unzipped. We are truly riding the bus home." -Sea

# "I would like to just kiss her all over her body, and after all this I would make love to her for the whole night." -Mikki

# "I would love to role play a "first meeting seduction" with my significant other, where he and I go somewhere new and act as if we had just met. I would love to have him seduce me all over again as if we had never met." -Tall Lady

# "I always wanted to dance very closely, while French kissing with my partner. Just dancing while rubbing up against his muscular tense body would make me crazy! (In a good way!) -Anonymous

# "Some people may find this a bit weird, but I want to make love to my significant other in a mud puddle while it's raining. To top it off, follow it by taking a shower together to rinse all the mud off." -Sweet & Sexy

# "I would like making love outdoors in a big field in the middle of the day." -Monica

# "I would like to have hot sex outside in a thunder storm with rain pouring all around us, lightening maybe if it is a ways from us. I find that thought exciting." -Jacinda Wood

# "This may seem cliché, but I want to show up at his work, in the middle of the day, in nothing but a trench coat and sexy heels, and make love to him right then and there!" -Mel

# "Having sex in a public place where we can get easily caught, such as the bathroom, a car in a parking lot, etc." -Marky's Stiney

# "I would like to abduct her, and make her my love slave for the weekend." -Anonymous

# "Well, I would walk her out to her car when she goes to work. One day we would get into a heated kiss and my hand would roam up her skirt, but not past the panties. I'd like to give her oral sex while she's sitting in her car in her skirt." -Aaron

# "We would be standing by a fire, and he would start kissing the back of my neck. He would not stop there. All of a sudden, it would start to rain, and we go to the deck and make passionate love there." -Wendy

# "I would like being seduced, then made love to. I would enjoy being told how much he loves making love to me, slowly and sexy for hours in our hut on the beach while stranded." -Fantasylifeforme

# "I would like to watch my wife make love to another woman." -Tony

# "I would like to make love to my boyfriend in my parent's rose garden during a full moon, knowing they are inside the house, but I obviously wouldn't want them to catch me! -Tara

# "I would like making love with him in a room of about 10 couples and everybody is blindfolded." -Cindy

# "I would like making love on a blanket in the soft grass of the city park, with only the stars to watch us." -Mike's Girl

# I would like role-playing he's the cop and I'm the bad guy." -Anonymous

# "My fantasy takes place in an elevator. The elevator stops on the way up, and my partner gets on wearing a fireman's outfit. He has nothing on except for the overalls and the boots, he grabs me and we start fooling around. He eventually puts out my fire! -Anonymous

# "I would like to dress up in a skimpy maid's uniform, and have him be a rich and successful businessman who is cheating on his wife with me. He comes home after a long day at work only to catch a glimpse of a lacy bra peaking out from my uniform. He then just bends me over a table and thrusts like mad from behind me. He should be very rough with me, and act like he's just using me for his sexual pleasure. That is so hot!" -Crystal

# "I would like driving nude in the car." -Paul

# "I would love to have sex on the Eiffel Tower during the night time with all the lights shining. It's a thrill to know someone could see you. Also, Paris is the most romantic city." -Becky

# "I would like it if I'd be the nurse, and my lover would be the patient. First, I would do oral care by French kissing. Then, I'd take off his shirt and give a nice massage with warm, scented oil. Next, I would get in bed and instruct the patient to come to me, taking off his pants in the process...and so on from there!" -Nursy

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

The Oral Factor

The Oral Factor
Create an oral experience he'll never forget!!
by Jennifer Good

If your man loves to receive oral sex, and whose doesn't, these four oral encounters are sure to keep him begging for more! Before you decide to complete an encounter, spice things up by printing out the coordinating invitation (except #4) and give it to them. This will create the added factor of sweet, tempting anticipation! So, if you're ready to knock his socks off, read on!

Encounter #1: Hot & Cold
Click On: Printable Invitation
When your partner arrives, tell him to take off his clothes and lie on the bed, or wherever you choose. Then hand him a blindfold and tell him to put it on. After he has done this, let him lay there in suspense for a few minutes. When you are ready, reach over to your hidden cup of warm drink (coffee, hot chocolate, etc.) and take a sip. Then proceed to pleasure him with your mouth. When he is really into it, reach down and put an ice cube in your mouth. Then proceed to pleasure your partner again. Keep switching these until needed. :)

Encounter #2: Look But Don't Lick
Click On: Printable Invitation
When your partner arrives, tell him to take off his clothes, or help them out of them yourself. Have him lie down on the bed. Then undress yourself, if you are not already undressed, and get in the 69 position with you on top of him, but a direction so your lower body is above his head. Instruct him that no matter what you do he is not allowed to touch you, or you will completely stop what you are doing and walk away. Then proceed to pleasure him, but with the secret of making him think you are enjoying giving him the pleasure more than he could possibly be receiving it. You can do this by rotating your torso, moaning, pretending to move your body as if having sex with him, etc.

Encounter #3: The Better To Please You With My Dear
Click On: Printable Invitation
For this encounter, your creativity is the only block. Keep a basket of oral sex aides handy. You might include strong mints, coffee, ice, pop rocks, fruit, chocolate syrup, whip cream, heating or icy edible massage oil, etc. When your partner arrives for his appointment, have him undress and put on a blindfold. Then have him sit in a chair or on the side of the bed. Then one-by-one try using all of the items you've collected inside your treat basket. He'll never know what hit him!

Encounter #4: Wherever You Go, There I Am
Variety is the spice of life, especially when it comes to mind blowing sex, pun intended! Spice things up by giving him pleasure at the most unexpected times and places. Below are a few suggestions!

* While they are asleep.

* Under their desk while they are working.
Pretend to be getting something, or looking at something under their desk. On your way up stop and surprise them!

* While they are watching T.V.
Walk over to your partner, and in an extremely causal tone say, "Enjoy and your show and don't mind me." Then start undoing their pants.

* While they are on the phone.
Walk over to your partner and put your finger over your mouth, signaling them to be quiet. Then start undoing their pants...

* While they are taking shower.
This is best done if you are wearing some kind of clothing like your night gown or something you don't mind getting wet. They should get the impression that this was a spur of the moment idea, and you didn't even want to wait to take off your clothes.

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

20 Sexy Ways With Whip Cream

20 Sexy Ways With Whip Cream
Create an experience they'll never forget with these ideas!
Sexy Ways With Whip Cream

In a weekly poll, we asked users how they would use whip cream on their partner. Below are twenty ideas that will help you create a night they'll never forget!!

I would spray it on all of his body and slowly lick, kiss, and suck the cream off SLOWLY--enticing him to the breaking point!!
-Barbara, 34

First, I would use it on her eyebrows and lids to be gently licked off. Next, I would use it in her hair to be massaged in. Then, little dollops one by one all over her body, scooped up with strawberries, which I would share with her.
-Anonymous, 36

By using the kind that sprays out of a can, you can put whipped cream undies on each other and then remove each other's undies by the licking them off!!
-Pab, 36

I would sensually massage him and then serve him up to me like a delicious banana split and eat every morsel. Chocolate syrup, pop rocks, strawberries and whipped cream...YUM!
-Kelly, 36

I would slowly strip them, then restrain them using bondage--handcuffs, then blindfold them. I would apply the cream wherever I felt like it. Then use my tongue to lick it of her. Which means it could go wherever I wanted!
-Anonymous, 20

I like to put it on her sexy little toes and suck it off.
-Don, 30

I would use it to top the ice cream on his belly as I turn him into my ice cream sundae.
-Brandi, 25

I'd put it on my finger for him to suck off.
-Amy, 26

I would love to make a whipped cream bikini on my wife's body. Then she could do one on me, and we'd hug, roll around, and lick the cream off each other's body.
-Stan, 38

Just as a bit of fun throw it all over him, kind of a cream fight. Then the real fun would be cleaning it all off. Or, maybe make a pretty pattern across his back and enjoy myself licking it off.
-Anonymous, 18

First, I would use it in every crevice of his body except for the goodies. Then I would follow it with the chocolate, caramel, and strawberries handy. (We'll be working off those calories later!) Next, I'd make a huge smiley face somewhere... Then I'd spray it on both of our nipples, so he can enjoy it too--if we make it this far!
-Nina, 20

I would get a can of whip cream and spray it on his abs while he is blindfolded, and I'd then lick it all off.
-Cheryl, 18

I would put some on my finger and trace his lips with it, then slowly lick his lips. Then, I would cover his nipples and lick it off.
-Anonymous, 33

I would love to fill our bathtub with it and have fun in it!
-Allen, 24

I'd put a little bit in my mouth and then deeply French kiss him. He loves sugar!
-Nat, 18

My boyfriend and I bought a couple of the flavored whip creams at a sex shop. After forgetting about it, one day I was walking out of the bedroom and he sprayed me in the face with some. I ran and found the other bottle, and so began a whip cream war. The shower together afterwards was even better then the whip cream fight!
-Shelby, 28

First deep-freeze it. Then spread it only on her nipples.
-Milan, 40

Blindfolding him, I'd open his mouth while I spray the whip cream inside just so he could get a little taste. I'd cover his chest in it all the way down and around his penis. Then I'd place strawberries randomly over his chest and slowly eat each one. Then I'd slowly cover him with the whip cream and in ONE long, sensuous stroke of my mouth I'd leave no trace of it behind. Oh yes, there are too many things I'd like to do!
-Terry, 21

We'd write words on each other, punctuated with strawberries.
-Anonymous, 18

I would use whip cream by spreading it all over her most sensitive parts of her body. Then I would get slices of ice-cold peaches and lay them on top of the whip cream. From there I would slowly proceed to satisfy my lover.
-Frank, 25

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Fun in the Hot Tub

Fun in the Hot Tub
by Brettani Shannon

Hot tubbing is a pretty routine happening with lovers because the warm water and lack of clothing easily fosters a sensual situation. Until you do things Lovingyou.com's way though, you've never really heated things up. Use the tips below to make a common experience super spicy.

Sensual Essentials:

Romantic Lighting
Candles, soft lamps, or twinkle lights are an important addition to the romantic ambiance. It's also romantic to watch the sun rise or set in the hot tub, and the lighting is provided for you!

Refreshments
Cold bottles of water, champagne, exotic fruit juices over ice, blended drinks, and cocktails are great hot-tubbing drinks. Beer isn't usually a good choice because it gets too warm too fast. Cold snacks are very refreshing as well. Grapes, carrot sticks, and popsicles are some good suggestions.

Lubricant
While many experts recommend using water-based lubricants, there is a time and a place for non-water based ones. Hot-tubbing is one of them. Use it for all sorts of sensual play (including massage) and it won't rinse off!

Music
Especially for nighttime tubbing, music is another way to further enhance the mood. Make a playlist that is conducive to the mood you hope to achieve.

Things To Do:

Relaxing Rub
Massage away your lover's tension in their shoulders, neck, head, face, back, chest, legs, hands and feet. You can use non-water-based lubricant instead of massage oil to reduce the amount of residue in your tub.

Horizontal Play
Foreplay is great in the water because your bodies are slippery and light, you can't see very well under the water line, and everyone looks sexy when they're wet. However, it is best for your vital parts to be out of the water for intercourse because it is common for a woman to get infections from doing it under water (besides the possible germs, it is something having to do with the water going where it shouldn't having an adverse effect on her delicate lining). Get creative with positioning. Visualize yourself poised over the side, on the ledge, or on his lap. Imagine yourself facing forward and backward in all of those positions.

Fun And Games
There is a great game for hot tub play called "Bathtub Love." There are floating "bubbles" filled with hilarious sensual suggestions. Some are fairly tame while others are pretty wild. A few will have your sides busting at the very thought! Another idea is to use bathtub finger paints or chocolate paints with your lover as the canvas (just make sure you make a clean-up plan beforehand).

Water Play
Bring him to his knees with a super hot water show. Men love to watch water glide over women's skin. Some ways to do it in the tub may be: pouring water from the crown of your head down your back, drizzling it slowly from your chest down your body or squeezing it from a sponge wherever you want him to touch you. Watch your guy melt as the water slips over your curves. Wake him from his trance with a little playful splashing before getting onto other activities. The show could be a spontaneous 30 second tease or a planned-out performance. Either way, it is sure to be a hit with your lover.

Reader Submitted Ideas:

Hot Tub Surprise
Over the past month, my fiancé and I have not had much time to spend together because he started a new job with new hours and I'm usually asleep by the time he gets home. Our weekends are usually filled with wedding planning. But one night, I surprised him when he got home from work. That night he came home to a dark apartment, as usual. He walked into our bedroom to check on me like he always does, but I wasn't asleep. I wasn't even in the room, but I'd left something for him. Sitting on the bed were a pair of his swim shorts, a pair of flip flops, a towel, and a picture I took of myself in the hot tub. He got the hint, and he quickly changed clothes and made his way out to the deck. Once outside, he found me lounging in the hot tub with a bottle of wine and some fresh fruit. The look on his face was priceless! It was a great night, and really let us connect with each other.
--submitted by Eryn

Steamy Romance
Go to your hot tub, set candles all around the edges, and just steam together in each others' arms.
--submitted by Anonymous

An Inexpensive Hot Tub
I live in Michigan and it's always so cold in the winter that I want to find some way to keep warm. One night I had the brilliant idea of using the bath tub as a hot tub. My boyfriend and I both put on our swim suits and climbed in. We've since bought waterproof playing cards for our "hot tubbing" experiences. There may not be a lot of room, but it's a lot of fun. (I discovered Target sells bubble bath finger paint in the section with the regular bubble bath.)
--submitted by Kimber

Caesar's Spa
Do you have an in-ground hot tub? If so, this is a good idea for you to try. In Ancient Rome, people relaxed in spas nude. What an opportunity to treat someone like a king/queen, plus one of you is already without clothes! This could lead to some pleasant rewards from your sweetheart! Find a place to buy or rent some Roman-style columns. Be sure to get one short column, about waist height. Set up the columns around the hot tub, putting the shorter one inside the circle of the bigger ones. Buy a toga at a costume shop (or you could improvise a toga with a plain white bedsheet). Set up a silver tray with finger food like grapes, strawberries, cherries, and mangos, as well as glasses of fruity wine. Put on some slow classical music to set the mood. Set the tray of food on the shorter column and cover it with a towel. As soon as your lover walks through the door, start removing their clothes, saying nothing until they ask what you are doing. Tell them (your name here) ordered that you are to be their servant today. If they use your name, tell them, "I'm not that person," and give them a fake name. Once they are fully undressed, lead them arm-in-arm to the "Spa". Feed them from the tray, and when they've had enough, set the tray aside, and ask, "What would you have me do now, Master?" By now, your sweetheart should have one thing on their mind! Let things progress naturally from there, and enjoy your night in Caesar's Spa!
--submitted by Angel's Sweetie


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Sexual Props I

Sexual Props I
by Brettani Shannon

Furniture For Making Whoopee
Variety is the spice of life, so why keep your sex life restricted to the bed when there are plenty of pieces of furniture designed for making whoopee? There are options for everyone... pieces that are perfect for every level of adventure and any budget. Below are the pros and cons of Lovingyou.com's favorite products and ideas.

The Tantra Chair
Luxurious, high quality, earth friendly, expensive, and very very sexy. Just looking at this beautiful piece of furniture puts sex on the mind because of its sensual curves and inviting texture. It is designed to heighten the sensuality in your lovemaking by making sexual positions easy to do. As you can see from the videos (yes, videos) on their site, the curvature of the chair matches the natural curves of two bodies is every position imaginable. Lying on the chair allows you to be much more comfortable than on a flat surface and leaves you feeling sexier than ever before. The price of $1200 for this chair only adds to the allure of this piece, so the Tantra Chair gets our #1 vote.

Liberator Shapes
Lift your bottom half, bend your top half, support your middle, or elevate your whole self – the choice is yours. The Liberator Stage, Esse, Wedge, and Ramp will do just as they suggest – they liberate you! Forget about feeling awkward trying to get into position. Liberator Shapes are foam pieces designed to make lovemaking easy, comfortable, and more intimate. They are upholstered in Liberator signature fabrics created specifically to handle the messes of sex play while feeling fabulous against your skin. The downsides to this love furniture are that they A. cost a pretty penny (plenty of forum users and reviewers agree that they are more than worth the cost, though) and B. some of the pieces are quite large and therefore, difficult to store discretely. One person suggested storing the stage under the bedroom window with a throw blanket and a couple of pillows to look like a "reading area." Another person told people their Shape was gymnastics equipment for their kids!

The Love Swing
If you've always wanted to try all of those standing positions, but they never feel quite right, then the Loveswing is a must try. The Wheelbarrow? No problem. The Downstroke? No problem. The Bike Pump? No problem there either. My only precautions are that you may struggle a bit with getting in and out gracefully and you may not like the bulge that appears on either side of the leg straps (like can happen with elastic topped thigh highs - not the most flattering on us curvaceous ladies) once you get into position. Just dim the lights when you want to Swing and save yourself the discomfiture.

Around the House Furniture
You can have the fun of using sex furniture without purchasing a thing! Stack pillows of your own. Hop on a dryer or the kitchen counter. Stand on a stair, a stool, or a couch to get into the perfect position. Get creative with what you have! This kind of variety in your sex life is a healthy and fun way to keep things hot in your relationship.

Vibrating Pillows
Pillows alone are great for sex in many ways. One is propping your caboose up for better access. Like the sensation of doing it on the dryer, the little bit of additional movement does more than you might guess! Another great way to use a pillow is to support your pelvis for rear entry positions. Using a vibrating pillow in this position has the added bonus of stimulating your clitoral area. If you're playing with the pillow on your own, it's easy to imagine how a vibrator inserted could be a lot of fun!

Inflatable Sex Furniture
These are not as luxurious to the touch as Liberator Shapes, but inflatable sex furniture serves the same purpose without the trouble of finding proper storage. They come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. You are sure to find the right piece for you. Some of this furniture merges with the world of sex machines as well, so there is definitely more variety as well. Another great thing about inflatables is that you can make as big of mess as you like! Lubricants, oils, water, and even chocolate is no match for this waterproof washable furniture. Their biggest disadvantage is the lack of intimacy that can occur with some couples when the sounds and feeling of the plastic becomes apparent.

The Love Rocker
This piece of furniture is designed to bring out the relaxing side of sex rather than the strenuous. Imagine a bench suspended from straps on a four post structure. You can lie down on it like a bed, strattle your partner, or a variety of other positions like ones you'd typically use in a bed. The difference is that the in and out motion is virtually effortless with the easy gliding motion of the bench. It is "part bed, part chair, and part gravity-powered swing" according to their website. It takes just a few simple steps to collapse the whole thing and discretely tuck it under your bed! Especially for those with any sort of physical problems that make sex difficult, the Love Rocker can help alleviate the strain and therefore increase the intimacy in a relationship.
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Sexual Restraint

Sexual Restraint
by Jennifer Good

When you've been with your partner for some time, it's likely the relationship could use a little spice introduced into the normal bedroom routine. For some daring couples, experimenting with a little light bondage may be just the right pick-me-up to re-ignite the sparks of passion. Bondage is a sexual practice involving tying up or restraining your partner. The idea of being restrained is an exciting sexual stimulant for a number of people. If this sounds like something you'd like to try, or you'd like some new creative tips, take a look at the ideas and suggestions below.

All Tied Up

Tying your partner up is a key element to bondage. This makes finding something to restrain your partner a primary focus for this type of love play. You can use something as simple as a bath robe belt or scarf to something more elaborate like a rope or belt system you can purchase at an adult store. Typically, most couples prefer something soft and easy they can hide like a scarf or something more flirty like a pair of "fun" cuffs that you can also get at any adult store. When selecting something, take into consideration your lifestyle, the time you have to devote to your sexual encounters, and both of your personalities. Keep in mind that you may not even need to physically restrain your partner. For some couples, you can achieve the same effect through suggestive wording.

Nowhere To Go

Now that you know what you'll use to restrain your partner, you need to figure out where and how you will do it. If you have a bed with posts or a headboard then you're all set. Alternatively, you could use legs of your bedside tables or, if you use something that's long enough, you can wrap it between your box spring and mattress. For couples that would rather not be "tied down" to something, just do something simple like tying their arms together. When you're ready to try something a little different, a quick perusal of items around your home should turn up something interesting.

Ready and Waiting

Your partner's all tied up and ready for your next move. Wait, what is your next move? This is where the real fun begins, because you can do anything you know your partner would be up to. You can torture them with slow and deliberate kisses all over their body or tickle their senses with a light feather or scarf. Add a blindfold into the mixture and every sense on your partner's body will be elevated. For more inspiration, take a look at these member ideas:

"I know that one fantasy my significant other loves is the idea of him being tied to a chair so that he is unable to move. Then I would do a striptease for him and begin masturbating in full view. Then I would slowly and antagonizingly begin to lightly touch him knowing full well that he wants to be untied NOW...hehehe...but not so fast! You could have lots of fun just teasing and tantalizing him without giving him what he wants...for as long as YOU'RE able to hold out."
--submitted by Freshstart

"I would get a set of handcuffs, a blindfold and a paddle. If he's blindfolded while handcuffed, you can lightly spank him with the paddle and since he can't see, it will up the thrill. What's really fun to do is to alternate massaging and paddling. For example, start with rubbing his back or his legs and then surprise him wih a spank here and there."
--submitted by k_land84

A Word of Caution

This type of love play requires both partners to be completely comfortable with the idea and with each other. If you decide to give this a try, you should set up a code word that lets the other person know you want to stop. Make it something out of the ordinary so it's clear that is what's being said.


Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Tasty Temptations

Tasty Temptations
by Jennifer Good

Get a little creative in the bedroom by adding a new dimension to your love play...food! Ever since 9 1/2 Weeks, food and seduction have gone hand in hand. Get ready to recreate a little culinary seduction of your own with these ideas from other LYC readers!

Body Paint Alternative
Pudding cups in various flavors work as a great alternative to commercial body paints; each person gets one cup of each flavor. Use the pudding to finger-paint your lover. When you're finished painting, you have to lick off your artwork. Then it's their turn to do the same...or you can try painting each other at the same time, but that gets messy. This can also be done with containers of yogurt, but pudding works best!
--submitted by Sensual Lady

Dressed In Chocolate
My wife literally lives for chocolate. Once, we were going out on a long drive in the country-side. We stopped at a deserted spot and we started having a fun conversation. A little later, I hugged her as show of affection. Now, she has a wonderful habit of planting a kiss over my collar bone and when she did that, she got a surprise! She found a Kit Kat taped to me (in the wrapper, of course.) After finding that, she couldn't resist hunting for each treasure until I was totally stripped. She discovered 20 treasures taped all over my body. Note: it takes a while to attach all the candies and then get dressed over them!
--submitted by Raj

Food Games
I took a bunch of fresh strawberries and cherries and kept the stems on them. I then got some thread and some thumb tacks. I dipped some of the strawberries in a melted chocolate bar and tied string to the stems. The other end of the string I tied to a thumb tack. I then hung them at different lengths over the bed. When my boyfriend got home, I pulled him into bed with me. We sat and talked for a while, and then moved on to "other" things. Every so often during this entire time, one of us would reach up and take a bite of one of the pieces of fruit and feed it to the other.It was a fun way to keep everything interesting!
--submitted by Marie

Whipped Cream Hide & Seek
This is a great game to play with your significant other. The “hider" is naked on the bed, couch, etc. He/she takes a can of cool whip and places a small amount anywhere on her/his body while the “seeker”, wearing a blindfold, must find it using only his/her nose and mouth. It's a great foreplay idea.
--submitted by Josh

The Human Sundae
My boyfriend and I had been speaking about doing this for a while, but I didn't know when we would do it. One day I went over to his house, and when he opened the door, all of the lights were out and there were candles lit. He took my hand and led me to the shower, where he bathed me. He dried me off and led me to the bed. He had bought white sheets for the occasion. Surrounding the bed were cut up strawberries, bananas, ice cream, hot fudge, grapes, and whipped cream. He laid me down and turned me into a human sundae! It was wonderful. Then it was my turn...of course you know what happens next. It was a night I will never forget!
--submitted by Meagan L. Matos

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Strip Games

Strip Games
by Jennifer Good

Adding some variety to your everyday sex life can often seem a little uninspired. That's all about to change! Take dressing in your birthday suit to an entirely new level of creativity with these ideas from other real couples . Try any and all of these 12 fabulous stripping games for an exciting new twist to your love play. Getting naked has never been this much fun!

Special Edition Chess
My wife and I really love this game. First, we light the candles and play quiet love music. When all of the pieces are set up we take one last look in each other’s eyes and start the game! Whenever I get one of her chess pieces, I also get to slowly take off one of her clothing items. I like to start with the socks first so that we can save the best for last! Usually the game stays pretty even so that we eventually don’t have any clothes on. One time, she jumped on me before we were even done and you can assume what happened after! Anyways, try this one out because it’s a really great game.
--submitted by Anonymous

Twister Teasers
Spend a night in and play twister, but with a twist. Whoever loses the round must take off an article of clothing. Play as many rounds as you wish, but before long, your sweetie will be all over you!
--submitted by Dacey

Pick A Number
If you like to be silly with your love, here's a fun thing to do: Walk up to them with a big smile on your face, and say, "Pick a number between one and ten." Don't explain why, just tell them to do it. When they make a guess at it, lean in close and whisper, "Nope, you lose. Take off your clothes."
--submitted by Barbara Tilton

Strip Checkers
First, both you and your mate write down a fantasy of yours on a slip of paper. Make sure that each of you is only wearing 4 items of clothing. Woman: shirt, bra, panties, and pants. Man: shirt, undershirt, boxers, and pants. Then play normal checkers. But when you jump one of your lover's pieces you take off one of their pieces of clothing until both of you are naked. Next (once you are both naked) if you jump one of your lover’s pieces you choose something to do to them or choose something for them to do to you. The game goes until one of you wins and the person that wins gets their fantasy to be a reality. This is perfect for making up or rekindling your love life.
--submitted by Anonymous

Strip Cribbage
Very simple. Play a normal game of cribbage... except, the loser of each hand has to remove a piece of clothing. Should one (or both) of you end up naked before the end of the game then the winner of the hand will make a request of the loser to do something to him/her. To make it even more interesting, the winner can tell the loser to do something to themself while he/she watches. No matter what the outcome of the game is, you both end up winners!!
--submitted by W.A.B.

Strip Darts
My husband and I had a dart board laying around the house, so one day we decided to put it up and play a bit of strip darts. We were not too sure how we were going to accomplish this, but we started with 2 decks of cards. I dealt out 10 cards each. We looked at our own cards only (so neither of us knew the others cards). The cards represented #'s on the board (A=1 J=11 Q=12 K=13). We shot the darts with hopes of hitting our #s that were on our cards and not in our partner’s cards. If we hit a number that we had a card for then we then we got to discard that card. Eventually, one of us ran out of cards. The partner who still had cards in their hand had to remove a piece of clothing. Soon enough, all the clothing was removed. My husband was so turned on (even though neither one of us was very good at darts), we both enjoyed the game very much!
--submitted by Secret One

Strip Dice Game
One of you roll the dice to start the game. On each player's turn, they guess whether their roll of the die will be higher or lower than the previous one. If they are incorrect then they must remove one item of clothing. The die is then passed to the other player.
--submitted by Randy

Strip Monopoly
The next time you play Monopoly, use these rules to make it extremely interesting! Every time a player has to pay tax, pay to get out of jail or pay a chance or community chest card, instead of using money, they put a piece of clothing in the middle. Whoever lands on free parking, gets the clothes. The winner, of course, is the one with the most clothing. Just think of the fun you can have with your partner trying to get your clothes back.
--submitted by Roberta

Strip Pop
You will need to write different clothing words on little pieces of papers (ie. shirt, pants, undies and so on). Then you will need to place each piece of paper in separate balloons. Give the balloons to your lover and tell them to pop one at a time. As they pop them, they have to read the paper and remove the clothing stated. If you should get the undies one before your pants, just lay it to the side. It will build the excitement, waiting to take the undies off. You can have some stripper music playing to give your partner a real show. Then you can switch positions. It’s always fun to watch your love strip. Have fun!!
--submitted by Brandi

Strip Scrabble
Spice up the old Scrabble game with this sexy version. Play Scrabble like normal, but with two scoring rules changes. For every 20 points you score, your opponent has to strip off one item of clothing. You play until all tiles are used, and the winner get to assign sexual/romantic favors to the losing partner.
--submitted by Anonymous

Strip Sorry
Ok, we are all familiar with the childhood game Sorry, right? The object of the game is to get your four game pieces into your colored section. In Strip Sorry, you must make sure you and your partner only have four articles of clothing on. After you do that, begin playing the game normally. The person who gets the first piece to the end gets to watch as the other player removes an article of their clothing. This process continues until some one has no clothes on, but then you can quit playing and go into the bedroom.
--submitted by Morgan

Strip Backgammon
Take time to dress up for a night of games. Include candles, soft music, your drink of choice such as wine, beer or mixed drinks, and make sure you have enough alone time. Playing is simple. The winner chooses a piece of clothing for the loser to remove. So if I am lucky, my wife is playing topless... if not, I'm in my boxers. To add some fun, if one of us rolls doubles, then he or she has a choice of something like a kiss, or back rub, or part massage. Doubles happen frequently so we get a lot of touching during the games. Also, if one partner gets gammoned, the winner gets a bigger prize. This certainly keeps us having fun, even in our 17th year together.
--submitted by Anonymous


Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Quickie Tips

Quickie Tips
by Brettani Shannon

Sex is truly at its best when there is plenty of variety. Long love making sessions in the bedroom are wonderful, but don’t underestimate the excitement of quickies. You can do it anywhere and anytime if you plan the rendezvous to fit into your time constraints.

Fun Places To Do It

Part of the fun of quickies is opening up the venue possibilities!

* In the car
* At the office
* In the bed
* On the table
* On the couch
* In the shower
* On the washing machine
* On the kitchen counter
* In the pool

Useful Things To Have Handy For Quickies

Sometimes being unprepared can stop you from getting it on, so pack yourself a little bag of quickie essentials

* Lube
* Towel
* Condom
* Finger Vibrator

Fitting Sex Into Your Busy Schedule

An unexpected quickie isn’t always an easy thing to pull off. Sometimes you’ve got to get creative and plan ahead.

* Get right to it so that you have as much time as possible for the actual sex.
* Make it a strictly oral encounter.
* Be ready to jump your lover the minute they get home (be sitting on the dryer naked or in the bed with all of your quickie essentials ready)
* If you’ve got enough faith in your partner’s skills, call or text him from the other room, the car, or wherever you are to let him know he’s got 10 minutes and the timer is running.

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

25 Sexy Surprises

25 Sexy Surprises
by Brettani Shannon

To kick start a new love or stoke the fires of a long burning relationship, there’s nothing like a sexy surprise to heat things up. Learn a new sensual skill, bring something new into your relationship, or plan a red hot adventure for the two of you. Below are 25 great ideas to get you started!

* Learn belly dancing
* Climb in bed wearing sexy lingerie
* Write a piece of erotica and give it to your lover
* Replace your bedding with red satin sheets
* Meet your love at a hotel for an afternoon rendezvous
* Get a piercing
* Buy a new sex toy
* Have phone sex while one of you is at work
* Take him out dancing wearing your skimpiest of super-hot outfits
* Sign the two of you up for a tantric lover’s workshop
* Write a short porn script and have fun acting it out
* Take an oral sex class
* Send him a text telling him five things he does that make you really hot
* Tie him up
* Take pole dancing lessons
* Set up a night of body painting
* Take them on a test drive of a hot car and do it in the back seat
* Try out a role play
* Switch out his bedtime reading book with a sexy romance novel
* Be wearing a whipped cream bikini when they get home from work
* Get a tattoo
* Wake your partner up in the middle of the night with a bit of oral pleasure
* Blindfold them
* Play strip poker
* Email your lover a photo of you naked

Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

Floor Play

Floor Play
by Brettani Shannon

Floor Play
Just how much fun can you have on the floor? How about thrilling each other with blindfolds and feathers, belly dancing, blacklights, massages, or a romantic sleepover? We’ve got ten hot floor play ideas from the experts and readers on LYC. Combine a couple of your favorites for a custom concoction of sensual entertainment neither of you will soon forget!

Blindfolds, Feathers, Ice and Candle Massage Oil
Excite your lover’s senses like never before. Light a massage oil candle about 15 minutes before you begin your sexy escapade. Blindfold your man and then get out your bag of sensual goodies. Begin by dripping the hot oil over their body and massaging it in with long sensual strokes. Tease him with an ostrich feather from head to toe, then pleasure him orally for a few moments. Go back to massaging him while you let a piece of ice melt in your mouth. Delight his senses with your cold mouth on his hot body, then rip off his blindfold and have your way with him.

Belly Dancing Date Night
Friday nights are "date nights" for my boyfriend and I. I really wanted to do something special. I have been taking belly dancing classes, but if you wanted to try this you could just buy something sexy and fake it. I even bought thumb symbols just to complete the outfit. I hung fabric/sheets from the ceiling with fishing line in five places to make a tent in the living room and threw all of the pillows in the house on the floor inside the tent. You could hang a lantern, but I lit candles all over the room and safely placed one on the table inside the tent. Prepare only finger foods and don't allow any utensils. Perform a sexy dance before you eat to work up both of his appetites! Hope you have as much fun as I did.
--submitted by Anonymous

A Fuzzy Blanket and the Two of You Naked by the Fire
Romantic lighting from a fire or candles, sensual fabrics, and skin to skin contact all set the stage for a deeply intimate encounter. Slip your legs between his, caress his back, and kiss each other all over.

Sensual Love Games
Playing a sensual love game like “1001 Nights of Great Sex” is a great way to get into floor play. Throw some pillows on the floor, and have a blast going through each phase of the game, discovering new ways of kissing, touching and pleasing each other, laughing and making memories together.

Black Light Paint Night
I surprised my boyfriend of nearly four years last Valentine's Day with a night of blacklight painting. I had replaced the light bulb prior and set up several white objects and a sheet to cover the floor. The more whites and florescents you use, the better. We had so much fun getting to know each other with upbeat music, blacklights, and plenty of paint. My boyfriend marveled at the unusual thought and participated enthusiastically. You can even use cans of whipped cream instead of paint!
--submitted by Sam

Sensual Massage
Make sure the room is warm enough and provide a couple of sheets and a blanket. Douse your lover with oil and go to town. The key to sensual massage is to adore every inch of your partner’s body. Delight their senses by varying the intensity of your touch and being creative with your massage. Use your fingertips, knuckles, the heel of your hand, your elbows, and your forearms. To make things a little hotter, wear little to no clothing yourself and don't be afraid to let your skin touch theirs. You can even straddle them and let your legs rest right outside of theirs. The skin-on-skin contact will increase the overall sensuality of the massage experience.

Erotic Edibles
Make your sex even yummier with erotic edibles that will tantalize your taste buds. As sweet as you want it or hot as you can take it, there is a sensual edible for you. Here are some of our favorite erotic edibles, along with ideas for sensual treats you can find at home.

70's Night of Romance
One night I ran a bubble bath for my girlfriend, and while she was busy in the bath, I replaced the bulbs in the basement with black light bulbs. I also brought in a black light lamp. I put a mattress on the floor with a white sheet over it. I also had a bunch of fluorescent markers and plenty of paper. The mood was set! When she came downstairs, I put on Pink Floyd's Dark Side of the Moon. She was really surprised to see what I'd done. We spent the whole night writing on each other, on the bed, writing notes to each other on the pieces of paper, and enjoying each other under the glow of the black lights. It was a night to remember!
--submitted by Jack

Sleepover for Two
My husband and I like to take a night once in a while to catch up and have what we call "sleepovers." At about 8pm, we get into our PJ's and pile a bunch of blankets on the floor. Then we watch a couple DVD's that we rented for that night. We pop some popcorn and make a bunch of junk food and curl up on the couch and watch the movies. Afterward, we play a board game like LIFE or something. Once we're done with that, we lay on the blankets and talk until we fall asleep. It's a lot of fun.
--submitted by Mrs. Reed

Romantic Body Painting
Crayola makes the best washable paints, and they're not just for kids! Lay out some plastic on the floor or bed and have a variety of colors of washable paints handy. Light some candles and have a blast using each other as a canvas. It's so much fun being creative with each other, and the cleanup is pretty fun too!
--submitted by Jen
Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/

20 ways to spice up your sex life

20 ways to spice up your sex life
by Aly Walansky


20 ways to spice up your sex life Are your date nights feeling blah? Do you need to spice it up before it dies of boredom? Here are 20 tips from some of our favorite people!

1. Why do you have to? If the combination of the two people isn't spicy enough, stay home and read a good book.

– Catherine Hickland, author of The 30 Day Heartbreak Cure

2. Let your date pick from a grab bag of coupons for different sex acts from a sensuous massage to intercourse in the room of his choice.

-- Lily from PA

3. Flirt, flirt, flirt with your partner: No matter how long you've been together, flirt with each other when you go out. If you used to flirt with each other and now don't, start doing it again. If you never did, try stepping out of your "norm" and flirt a little with him or her.

-- Susie and Otto Collins, relationship coaches and co-authors of Red Hot Love Relationships and How to Heal Your Broken Heart

4.Let your husband/date choose a sexy outfit for you to wear. Just the act of dressing for him -- outfit and lingerie -- will turn him on.

-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon

5. Go on a road trip! Just drive, no destination in mind, and see where the road takes you.

-- Amy from IN

6. Do a slow strip tease, one item of clothing after each romantic dance. You probably won't get past 3 songs.

-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon

7. Wear sexy underwear that you know your mate will love – it will be an extra special gift as he unwraps his "present".

--Scarlette from NJ

8. Play photographer and model. Whether you keep the photos or not, it is a great turn on. And a great way to find out what about your looks turns him on.

-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon

9. Make some chocolate fondue for dessert – and then brush the leftovers on each other!

-- Ellyn from NY

10. Start with you nude in your heels and have him to put your garter belt and hose on you -- again you might get past one leg. Note -- if HE puts on your garter belt and hose --run for your life.

-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon

11. Try something you never have before – whether it be a public place, bondage, or blind folds, it will bring a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.

-- Melissa from FL

12. Invent your own brand of romance and it doesn't have to look like anyone else's. Romance to you might be yelling and screaming together at a basketball game. It might be snuggled up at your favorite restaurant or it might be taking a walk in the woods and holding hands.

-- Susie and Otto Collins, relationship coaches and co-authors of Red Hot Love Relationships and How to Heal Your Broken Heart

13. Send flirty texts in the hours before your date – by dinner, the anticipation will be driving you crazy.

-- Grace from NY

14. Wear new undies. Even if you don't plan for the night to go in that direction, it will make you feel more sexy and confident.

-- Marti from CT

15. Share the fantasy night. Whisper your fantasy in his ear in public and let him stew in the thought until you get home. Have the stage set.

-- Beverly Solomon, creative director of musee-solomon

16. Watch a dirty movie. Either it will turn you on, or give you a great shared laugh.

-- Allison from NJ

17. Try an evening of finger foods... feeding each other gooey, messy, bites can be incredibly erotic!

-- Laura from NY

18. Take a trip down memory lane. For date night, do something together that you used to love to do together. Maybe it's the restaurant where you met, bowling or renting the movie you saw together on your first date.

-- Susie and Otto Collins, relationship coaches and co-authors of Red Hot Love Relationships and How to Heal Your Broken Heart

19. Fool around – but don't have sex. Remember high school, when you'd make out for hours and never even take off your clothes? NOT having sex can be a huge turn on.

-- Erica from VA

20. Try role playing. Meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers... the excitement will be flowing in no time.

-- Jill from OH



Source: http://lovingyou.com/content/passion/